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GIVE UPS the beach boy a free a soul a wanna to loss in a rock the roll for drift away
I somehow need a bunch of classic rock songs lyrics all translated into birb speech
"well why is it even important to mention aromantic and asexual people all the time not everyone gets mention-"
because our entire culture is so deeply steeped in sex and romance and there’s millions of people who want none of one or the other or both and they need to be recognized and mentioned instead of made to feel like they don’t fit and they’re broken
I think it’s ridiculous that I’m the only person not sick at work. I’m gonna try to get out early tomorrow because I’m tired of holding the fort on my own.
EVERYONE STOP WHAT YOU’RE DOING RIGHT NOW AND READ THIS BECAUSE HOLY SHIT MY WHOLE LIFE JUST CHANGED FOR THE BETTER.
So apparently in addition to running Archive of Our Own and providing legal advocacy to fans who run up against plagiarism accusations, the Organization for Transformative Works also publishes a peer-reviewed academic journal called Transformative Works and Cultures that is dedicated to promoting scholarship about fanworks and practices. This journal is 100% free to access and has been publishing 2-3 volumes (each containing 15-18 articles, essays, interviews, and book reviews) per year since 2008.
Why is this so fucking exciting? For one thing, academia has a terrible habit of being increeeedibly sloooow to discuss new ideas — partly due to the very long turnaround time necessary to get articles published. By contrast, Transformative Works and Cultures is super up-to-date and teaming with topics that are actually relevant to modern fandom.
Want to read an academic article about female fans being “fridged” in comic book culture? Done. Interested in learning about the societal implications of mpreg within fanfiction/fanart? Here you go. Want to learn more about race and ethnicity in fandom? Well, would you look at that. Feel a mighty need to read a specially-conducted interview with Orlando Jones about producer/fan interactions in “Sleepy Hollow”? Holy butts the show only came out in 2013 and they already have this what the hell.
And all of this — all of the knowledge, all of the analysis, all of the academic credibility being added to fannish ideas — is 100% free to access.
Transformative Works and Cultures is doing fandom an incredible service: by giving a voice to people within fandom, by preserving the discussions and ideas that were important to fannish culture at certain points in time, by emphasizing our significance as a subculture — and all the while doing it on our own terms.
These are fans working hard to give legitimacy to other fans, and if you don’t think that’s rad as hell then I don’t even know what to tell you.
I’m Japanese literature student and my dissertation is about fujoshi .Transformative Works and Cultures really help me like wow thanks really :’D
y’all try to find the tiniest reason to not support sj/feminism like “oh wow a troll blog once said eating chinese food is cultural appropriation haha sorry i guess i don’t support trans rights at all anymore”
Liberals point out that we too use smartphones, laptops, wear shoes and eat food and claim that that renders our anti-capitalist points invalid -
But in a world where I can’t even buy food without indirectly participating in a massive amount of systemic violence, something is terribly, terribly wrong.
IT HAS FUZZY FEET
Now those are some great bird pants
one of the most insidious things about depression is it doesn’t ‘feel’ like depression. even when you have it, you know you have it, you’ve been diagnosed—you still find yourself thinking, no, nope, this isn’t it, can’t be. it’s like the mental illness equivalent of that knight in monty python that keeps going ‘it’s a flesh wound! i’m fine, really! this is just a scratch, i’ll be up in a moment!’ even after all his limbs have been hacked off and he’s lying there helpless.
one of the most common narratives around it is that no one realizes they have depression until they start checking off what they consider to be normal aspects of their lives—and personal character flaws— against the checklist for depression symptoms. really key symptoms include:
- lack of motivation
- constant tiredness, even exhaustion
- finding no pleasure or satisfaction in activities they used to like, or that they know should feel good
- not seeing the point of doing anything
- increased and even unmanageable anxiety and fearfulness
any one of these symptoms drains away your ability to do work, cope with setbacks, overcome difficulties, or stop procrastinating. multiple symptoms create a pretty perfect storm of intertia and anxious self-loathing. you stop doing anything because it’s hard to get going, unpleasant while you’re at it, and afterwards there’s no reward. why bother, right? and when you’re always tired you get conservative of what little energy you can manage, and when you only feel emotions on the ‘empty to miserable’ spectrum you get really aversive to making mistakes. the whole mess very quickly and very insidiously loads every single thing in your life with toxic emotional baggage.
and then someone says to you— or you say to yourself, ‘stop being lazy’. and that haunts you forever. because you’re lazy! the work is so easy. everyone else does it. everyone but you, you lazy asshole, lying around all day not doing this totally easy thing that you should be able to but aren’t. you don’t have depression! of course not. mental illness is for victims, is for blameless innocent people who can’t be blamed for being so understandably sick. but you can be blamed. you have a character flaw, and it’s getting worse by the minute.
and that is how people who have been diagnosed, who have been medicated, who have been through therapy, can still spend all day hiding in bed and chewing themselves up over their failure to just somehow magically be a good, healthy, useful person, instead of treating themselves to a sick day and saying ‘yup! it’s depression. i need to be kind to myself.’
I pretty much have nearly all of the above, though what keeps me going at a reasonably high level is a perfectionist streak and anxiety which keeps me driven not to let anyone down. I do get a small measure of personal gratification from a job well done, but ultimately a lot of the time I just do enough in terms of caring for myself to get by.
I seem put together but I’m too tired to reach beyond what I have.
Part of me says this isn’t a healthy way to live, another part of me struggles to let myself be, accept things as they are, and not be too consumed by soul-grinding standards of productivity and merit.
So yeah, I know I’ve had a history of depression in the past, but this numbness is SO MUCH BETTER than things used to be, that I wonder if I can even say I am still depressed.
Rational mind says of course you’re still depressed. Other part says you don’t have it so bad, just keep moving and don’t look back.
Why do I have to work with people with the shittiest immune systems ever.
HELLO I AM LOKI
Because we need to be reminded how small Chigi actually is
A man just walked past me and said “excuse me, but you look very nice tonight darlin” I said thank you and he said you’re welcome and walked off. And that is how you compliment a woman without harassing them
No, that is still unsolicited, and thus, harassment. No amount of “darlins” is gonna make me not want to punch your ass for coming on to me without provocation.
UR SO STUPID
I think I talked about this before. I don’t think we’re at a point yet where men remarking about your physical appearance is going to be without the issue of power dynamics getting in the way. For some people they can feel comfortable with a strange guy making a comment on their appearance.
For others this is HIGHLY threatening, because a) its unsolicitied b) its a stranger c) its a GUY, making a comment on a woman’s physical appearance, which will always always always be loaded until the the power inequality between men and women are really and truly destroyed.
I do not like to be complimented on my looks by guys I don’t know. It alarms me. My defenses instantly go up, wondering if there might be issues with this individual. It might be because I have anxiety/am hyper aware of these things, but what’s the difference between “Hey darlin, you look nice today” and “hey baby, lookin’ good”. Really not much. They can come from the same place unfortunately, and many men may not MEAN harm when they do this, the fact is they are still eying a woman up like an object and feeling it necessary to put their two cents down on the subject and frankly, IT’S NOT YOUR PLACE TO DO SO, SO DON’T.
Several times a week, I get remarks from random guys, and seriously, I’m not exactly the best kept person. I do it intentionally because I don’t care/I DO NOT WANT SEXUAL ATTENTION POINTED IN MY DIRECTION. But still, some asshat dude will be in the building and say things like “darling”, “sweetie”, “young lady” all day at me. And it’s just a growing feeling of dread because that guy IS indeed appraising your body and appearance. And lo and behold the shithead goes “So are you looking to date someone?” NO, AND DEFINITELY NOT YOU WHO HAVE BEEN OGLING ME ALL DAY. I don’t give a shit if he thinks its a compliment, or that he has the right to solicit any woman out he sees. It’s not welcome, I’m at fucking WORK, I am not there to be solicited.
Also how about the gross middle aged dudes or the older guys who come in and see a young Asian woman and go “I KNEW AN ASIAN GIRL ONCE!” and starts reminiscing about some girl he once knew when they were overseas or when he and his wife hosted an exchange student or some other bullshit. And they inevitably go in on some racist essentialist junk and how sweet and gentle and project it on you. They might see it as a compliment but its racist and sexist and FUCK YOU.
Or how about the random shit that blindsides you utterly. You assist a guy at your workplace because you know, that’s what you do, that’s what decent people do. And by way of compliment, because you are a woman, its INSTANTLY about your physical appearance, its not about your competency, or your courtesy. It’s always about how pretty you are. FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU. “She’s a real pretty girl, right?” the guy says to his friend. You instantly know where you stand with these guys in terms of power and agency. They are the viewer, you are the object. They’ve been looking at your body the entire time you’ve been interacting. It’s the quickest way to make someone feel utterly gross in their skin.
This is the issue I have with that fucking bullcrap above. I don’t need to be nice to guys making comments on my appearance because they inevitably feel its their right as guys to appraise women’s bodies. I do NOT need to accept it with a polite smile. I am not on display for you.
Unless I ask you what you think about how I look today, or you are my friend and have shown yourself not to be a threat/gross shitbag, keep your goddamn comments to yourself.
Q: Why does that character have to be gay/bi/black/Asian/Hispanic/etc?
A: As opposed to what?
I’ve found this to be a useful response, because many people will hesitate before saying “white” or “straight.” That hesitation comes from the realization, however…